As far as Tobin I doubt Malius got a copy of the note as Tobin had never met him other then the meeting. As such Tobin did not know him well enough to say good bye to Malius.
As far as the convo between myself and Vesper he will have to start it up as Malius has no idea that Alyssia has a problem with his words.
Lets get one thing straight, the way for the moment I am playing Malius is as a stuck up I am better then you Elf as most Elves are. Once he gets to know the party, fights beside them and travels with them he will slowly change and who knows may even become friends with Draven (of course thats if Val wants to be friends

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So please do not take anything the character says or does as a personal attack on anyone. Its just the way I perceive him as for all intents he is the outsider among this group.